Musings...

If you know me at all, you must have known I’ll get to this eventually:-) It’s the hot topic since past four years and everyone has an opinion. Here’s mine: Hard to believe but I was not such a political person till about the time when Hillary Clinton announced her candidacy. Before that I loved watching Obama and all the things he was doing and the decency and smartness he had brought to the WH. But with Clinton’s announcement, suddenly it was a chance of a lifetime to work for the campaign of the first woman President of the USA! Having been a feminist all my life, working for a female candidate for president seemed like the culmination of all the ideas I would talk about in my social circle and family. And that too for a woman who had proven her worth over a lifetime of work for women’s rights and children’s rights. And having come from a country where we’ve had a woman as a prime minister and then a president, this seemed a no brainer!  As a mom of two daughters, i...

Dedicated to all who have lost a parent or both parents. Know that you’re not alone and that it’s ok to feel the way you feel. I’ve been there.  Death. A word that has so many connotations for people. For some it’s a relief, for some it’s a pain that stays with you, for some it’s a shock, for some it’s a natural process. Whatever it might be, it’s an end. An end to a love, a relationship, a life. So many things end with that one event. All you’re left with are memories and thoughts that bring that aching pain back to surface every now and then. And time does nothing to lessen the pain. It just becomes a throbbing dull ache. Even though we are surrounded by death all the time, it still has the power to hit us in the guts and make us gasp for a breath.  A loss of a parent is something we all dread because as we grow up, we know it’s going to happen eventually just not anytime soon and surely not to us. We are surrounded by death from the moment we grow up. But when it h...

This topic is always so inflamed with passion that it’s hard to ignore. So I thought I’ll share what I feel and think about this as a woman, a wife, a mother and all the rest. As every woman who has ever stood up for what she believes in knows very well, a feminist is a word that’s been twisted and weaponized and hurled at them at every chance by men who feel threatened that women want to be treated as equals! What an absurd idea! And even in this 21st century it creates more rift and anger in people who see it as a power grabbing tactic by women! Or as a way to shake things up by women for some weird selfish reasons. People call me a feminist and I wear it as a badge of pride! I know I’m fighting the good fight and shaking things up for the betterment of the society as a whole. I’m not breaking relationships or disrespecting people around me, but I do things that sound right to me without any apologies or excuses. Are some people mad about that? Maybe. But then that’s their problem, n...

What a powerful word that generates all kinds of emotions in people. A word that is a taboo but it’s use is as pervasive as ever. No one wants to be tagged as one regardless of their actions. But as we see today the idea is alive and kicking.  When did we first become racist? Aren’t we all a human race? Who put these ideas in our heads that some people are inferior to us while some are superior? Who put the color in our eyes that we see humans as black and white and brown?  No child sees color when he’s born. If a white child sees black people as its parents, that’s what he believes to be true. He doesn’t question why the parents’ color is different than him. All that kid needs is love and care and safety. We grow up and we still believe that it’s all good until we hear these murmurs about how certain people who are different than us are inferior to us or we don’t mix with them. And so it begins. And we don’t stop at color. We then bring in ethnicity, religion, ...

If there’s one relationship that’s as hot as fire, as cold as a glacier, as hard as a diamond and as soft as a petal, it’s this. This is the relationship that becomes the foundation of who we will become in life. When we are young, moms are the safe haven, the comfortable place we all want to go to. As we grow up that haven becomes constricting and we want to break out. A few years out and we want to go back in!  As a mother of two most wonderful girls, I get it. I get why they want to go out and explore the world whereas I want to hold on to them for dear life! Even though I was never one to exploring much, I understand the world and the country that they are growing up in is much different than the one I grew up in. My maternal instinct needs to be reined in for them to make a life of their own:-) They just need to know that they can always come home no matter what life throws at them.  And with age I’ve realized that we women and particularly women as moms, are meant to be ...

So...this pandemic, huh. What a jolt to humanity about our fleeting existence. How vulnerable we are to anything and everything but how we still think we are in control. How insignificant we are in grand scheme of things. And yet instead of living everyday, as every wise man ever has said, we fight and struggle everyday for the future that’s unknown. Here we were planning for the future and putting things in place as optimistic humans usually do and, Bam! Talk about being blindsided. Suddenly the world became a very scary place. Not just for us, for our families far away and our loved ones in this country. For our kids and spouses and friends. Suddenly our community became so much more than we ever thought it was. Neighbors checking on neighbors, offering every kind of help. Strangers became acquaintances. And we realized we can survive this. It was like a veil had been lifted from our eyes and everything became clear. Took a teeny tiny virus to do what all the books and mythology and ...

After so many months and years of should I or shouldn’t I, here I am! So many thoughts and ideas and always wanting to put them down finally led me here. So, here we go:-) This will be a blog about everything under the Sun. No categories but life in general and what it throws at us everyday. Some thoughts will be poignant, some funny and some might be a tad bit angry. As I said, everything under the Sun. Until later, Cheerios